Posted on 06/03/2015, in Cyber Abuse and tagged advice, cyber bullying, cyber extortion, cyber harassment, trolls. Bookmark the permalink. 24 Comments.
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Thanks for your article, Xena. I, too, know what it is like to be bullied–by family members, teachers, employers, and even so-called “friends”. At 15, I tried to commit suicide by overdosing on pills and alcohol. When I woke up the next morning, I thought, “Damn! I can’t even do THAT right!!” I guess there is some truth in the saying that “Survivors become strong in the broken places.”
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I believe I got the expression wrong. I think it’s supposed to be, “What doesn’t kill you makes you strong in the broken places.”
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Hey Linda! I’ve heard the saying, “Whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.”
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I think I was mashing a couple of phrases together!
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Linda, I’m sorry to hear what you experienced as a teen. My goodness! That still goes on and teens, as well as some adults, do take their own lives because of bullying. One thing that the article says, and that I’ve often said, is that bullies/harassers try to re-define their victims. We define ourselves. I heard similar things from Steve Harvey when he had the program on cyberharassment.
The first thing to do when realizing that a person is harassing or bullying you, is let others know. That might result in one support person, then another, then another until it grows into a large support system. Once the methods of harassers is known, they lose their power. They are like thieves looking for victims who are unaware. They are also creatures of habit, so whatever provokes or emotionally traumatizes one victim, they feel will work on another victim. And, they are undisciplined, so while you continue doing what makes you happy, they agonize over their failures to control you.
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I filed a complaint against a former boss and the parent company came in to investigate. It didn’t make things any better, but he finally knew he was on notice.
Thanks for your empathy, Xena. I’ll be 62 tomorrow, so obviously I’ve survived the bullies, even if the body is quickly falling apart!
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Linda,
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Thanks!
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Linda, don’t blame it on the body; blame it on gravity. 🙂
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Well, gravity is having one heck of a party on my body!
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Since this subject is about bullying/harassers, I might as well put this message out there. My Twitter account is protected. Only those I approve can follow me. The latest person making a request also tweeted to me regarding an article posted here, and wanted more information. Whatever information I have on cyber-harassers that I want to be publicly known is posted here on the blog. Following me on Twitter will not result in any information that is not already posted here on the blog.
I am not on Twitter for the purpose of engaging in the soap opera, harassment drama.
I blog, and that means that if anyone wants to discuss what is posted here, they should do it here.
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You don’t have to worry about ME, Xena–I don’t even use Twitter. I’m attempting to learn Facebook right now and it’s definitely a Love/Hate relationship. More Hate than Love. LOL!
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Linda, if you were on Twitter and asked to follow me, I would have no problem approving you. It’s people on Twitter who popup overnight, who never participated on the blog, and when they ask for approval, I check their timelines to find out they are engaged in the harassment soap opera.
I don’t do Facebook. It wasn’t long after it opened that people began telling horror stories about Facebook, so I never desired to join that media.
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I avoided Facebook for the longest time. To me, it’s just another portal for someone to try to hack into your computer. The only reason I finally opened an account was so I could see the videos my daughter makes of my grandsons. She tried to email them to me, but the files are too large.
I don’t mind messaging on it with my friend in Germany, since he uses it more than email. However, when my niece in Scotland started sending me stupid stuff, it got my hackles up and reminded me why I’ve never liked her!
(I’m really not a nice person. It’s just an act!) LOL!
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(((Hugs Linda)))
And Thank you for being so strong. 🙂
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Thanks, Kindheart. That’s the thing I like most about Xena” site. I run into the greatest people here.
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Happy Birthday Linda!
Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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Happy Birthday, Linda. Hope you are having a super time! 🙂
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Linda,
Hope that you enjoyed your birthday!
I think only one of my relatives has a Facebook page and that’s because his career takes him across the country so he posts where he’s at and going to. When he wants to talk to me, he picks up the phone. 🙂
Word Press encourages bloggers to have a FB account associated with their blog. I saw one FB page of a blogger who the cyber extortionists tried to defame, and they verbally vandalized his page. It requires work and I don’t have time to try to learn the management of other venues.
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Excellent cause!
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Kev, some years ago, a group of bloggers got together to compare notes about harassers. It really helped. Then, when I reported their methods here, it helped others recognize when they were being baited to do the dirty work of the cyber-extortionists. We opened a private blog and I’m thinking of opening it to more bloggers so that if any blogger is harassed, or receives a comment that demeans and/or defames another blogger, they can come there for support. What ya think?
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I think that it’s a great idea. It would provide an avenue of support that bloggers would feel comfortable with. It’s not easy to deal with bullying and victims become very apprehensive about seeking support for various reasons. So having a support group/media that they are already familiar with (a blog in this case) would make things somewhat easier for bullying victims so they can realise that there truly is support out there and that there’s no shame in being a victim of bullying or in sharing one’s experience and seeking support.
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Kev, thanks for the encouragement. It will take some contemplation on how to set it up and right now my plate is full with other matters, but I’ve placed it on my “to-do” list.
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I know exactly what you mean. 🙂
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